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10.13.2013

Let's suck it up & get real.

People don't wanna grow. 
People don't like change. 
Growth is change. 
Faced with change we're forced to get real. 
Real can get ugly.
Real can hurt.
Real can be embarrassing.
Real can be hard to swallow.
Real has to happen before growth can happen.
People really wanna grow;
We're just afraid of getting real.

1 comment:

Kristin Walker said...

Boy, don't I know that one is true! Sometimes it's still hard for me to swallow that I'm part of the "divorced" population now. There were a lot of things in my marriage that I knew weren't right, that I didn't want to deal with, that I didn't know HOW to deal with. I didn't WANT to get REAL about the situation, until I was forced to. And that, for sure, was scary.
But now as I look back on it, it's the best thing I could have done with myself. Oh sure, I could have decided to go back with my husband, knowing that the same thing would happen again. Just to "keep the marriage." But I knew in my gut that if I had to go through what he put me through one more time, I wasn't sure if I'd survive it, being that when I was going through it, I got to a very dark place in my mind and would contemplate suicide because I felt so hopeless. But thankfully, I came to my senses and by the grace of God, realized that the world was not going to end if I decided I wanted out. And I knew that suicide definitely would not solve anything and would damage my children for life.
So I got real, put on my big-girl panties, and decided to make a change in my life, regardless of what other people thought of me.
I lost some friends because of it. But honestly, they weren't really my friends to begin with. Because if they were, they would have come to me to find out my side of the story too instead of gossip behind my back, which I knew they were doing.
But like I said earlier, it was the best choice I could have made for myself and I don't regret it. I got real and I'm better for it.